Tuesday, February 28, 2012

Believe nothing, 
no matter where you read it, 
or who said it, 
no matter if I have said it, 
unless it agrees with 
your own reason and your own common sense.

~ Buddha ~

Monday, February 27, 2012

Today I am remembering Not To Take Anything Personally.



 The Four Agreements: Don't Take Anything Personally

Personal importance, or taking things personally, is the maximum expression of selfishness because we make the assumption that everything is about "me."

During the period of our education, or our domestication, we learn to take everything personally. We think we are responsible for everything. Me, me, always me!

Nothing other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves. All people live in their own dream, in their own mind; they are in a completely different world from the one you live in.

Taking things personally makes you easy prey for those predators who try to send you emotional poison. They can hook you easily with one little opinion, and feed you all their emotional garbage. When you take it personally, you eat it up, and now it becomes your garbage. But if you don't take it personally, you are immune to their poison; you will not eat it. Immunity to emotional poison is the gift of this agreement.

When you take things personally, you feel offended, and your reaction is to defend your beliefs and create conflicts. You make something big out of something little, because you have the need to be right and make everybody else wrong.

You try hard to be right by giving them your own opinions. But what you say, what you do, and the opinions you have are according to the agreements you have made and these opionions have nothing to do with the people around you. Your point of view is something personal to you. It is no one's truth but yours.

In the same way, others are going to have their own opinion according to their belief system. Nothing they think about me is really about me; it is about them. If I understand this, then when you get mad at me, I know you are dealing with yourself. I am the excuse for you to get mad.

You may even tell me, "Miguel, what you are saying is hurting me." But it is not what I am saying that is hurting you; it is that you have wounds that I touch by what I have said. You are hurting yourself. There is no way that I can take this personally. Not because I don't believe in you or don't trust you, but because I know that you see the world with different eyes - with your eyes.

- The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz

Saturday, February 25, 2012

We only see what we want to see and hear what we want to hear.  We don't perceive things the way they are.  We have the habit of dreaming with no basis in reality. 

don Miguel Ruiz

Friday, February 24, 2012

At some point everyday
i shake my head in disbelief
at Your passing.
How can it really be true?

Tuesday, February 21, 2012


“maybe it's not about the darkness. 
and maybe it's not about the light. 
maybe it's about the knowing. 
the knowing there is sacred always.
even when you can't see it. 
maybe it's the knowing that's the  
holy part.”

terri st.cloud

Monday, February 20, 2012


“there is no map. 
you gotta write your own. 
you gotta carve your own. 
you gotta sweat, cry, grieve, 
laugh, and love your own. 
and when you're all done, 
that's all that will have mattered.”

terri st.cloud

Sunday, February 19, 2012

The Patience of Cultivation
When you plant seeds in the garden, you don’t dig them up every day to see if they have sprouted yet. You simply water them and clear away the weeds; you know that the seeds will grow in time. Similarly, just do your daily practice and cultivate a kind heart. Abandon impatience and instead be content creating the causes for goodness; the results will come when they’re ready.

- Bhikshuni Thubten Chodron, "Meditator's Toolbox"

"Dear God and Angels, please help me to detach from other people's dramas. Please help me to love and uplift them, and to stay centered in peaceful thoughts and feelings. Thank you for clearing me of any fear-based energies I may have absorbed from listening to or witnessing their experiences. Please give me the strength to be a supportive friend and a positive and healthful role model of peace. Thank you for teaching me how to balance being a caring and compassionate person, with practicing healthy self-care and boundaries.

Thursday, February 16, 2012

In the heavens I see your eyes. In your eyes, I see the heavens. 
Why look for another Moon?  Or another Sun? 
What I see will always be enough for me.


Tuesday, February 14, 2012

I'll bet we will be missed tonight at Pagliacci's.
I know I've missed our reservation ritual, 
wondering if we would really have a table or not 
and will miss sharing my meatballs with You.
But more than any of those things...
               I miss You.                         
I love You, baby.